Dear Mothers

Big flowers on my green blouse – this is what I wanted to name this post. But after 30 seconds of pondering over, it felt awkward. Moving on..
Today I specially want to connect with my mom-friends. This post is dedicated to all the mothers. We are super-heroes, each one of us. All the hardships that we go through, from the minute we conceive to giving birth and then raising our babies. The struggle, the hardwork never ends. Once a mother, always a mother. We will always worry about our children, no matter how old they get. However sometimes, while mothering we start losing ourselves. Inch by inch, everyday, we keep letting go of our original self until one day when it’s too late.

So today, I would like you to Stop what you are doing and think about it. Are you one of those mothers who has stopped loving herself? Have you stopped cooking for yourself (by which I mean something that YOU like, not what the family wants)? Have you stopped dressing up nice? Have you stopped taking time out for a hobby or any activity that you previously enjoyed? Well, if the answer to any of these questions is a yes, then my friend there is a problem. This is not OK. We must love ourselves first, take care of ourselves first, only then will be able to love our children and live a happy life. ‘Happy’ is the key word here. Are you happy? Like REALLY happy? This happiness should not be because you gave birth. This happiness should be because you love your life, because you have not given up your ‘true self’ to be a mother.
Often I see mothers who are always, like ALWAYS dressed up in sweats or black head-to-toe. And rarely this is because they like black color. Usually it is because black hides their curves and makes them look thin. They think their bodies are not beautiful anymore since giving birth and hence do not deserve pretty clothes.
May I request you to please, please not do that to yourself. If anything, we must love and appreciate our bodies even more now. It goes through so much pain to bring a new life in to this world. Our bodies are so, so strong. And that is why I think all mothers are superheroes.
All of you is beautiful. Even those sagging breasts and the wide waistline – all these tell a beautiful story. The story of bringing a new life to this world. How can that be ugly in any way? Look at yourself from your child’s eyes – For them you are THE MOST BEAUTIFUL being in the entire world. Their eyes light up when you enter the room. Don’t they? Would you like them to grow up seeing you hating or criticizing your body? Instead we want our sons and daughters to be confident and humble in every way possible. If not for yourself, do it for them. Our children are seeing us, observing us, learning from us. They are observing every minute thing we say and do. We can’t let them grow up thinking only skinny is beautiful. We can’t let them think their mother hates her body since giving birth to them!
So let’s just change this. If not today, then when? If not us, then who? Let’s just start from dressing up nice everyday. Embrace your curves. Love your body. Don’t eat junk, workout regularly (remember they are watching us). Say good things about yourself. Think positive. Cook for yourself. Go back to that art class, gardening or reading or whatever you like to do. Take time out for yourself. Go shopping. Meet with your girlfriends. Just do what makes you happy!
In my humble opinion, body confidence is one of the best gifts we can give to our children, but it has to come from within us. And actions speak louder than words.

Dear mother – you are beautiful. Every inch of you. 🙂

Blouse: New York & Company | Jeans: Loft | Bag: Wilsons Leather | Earrings: Target

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Flower Power

Trust me when I say I sat in front of my computer so, so many times to write something but I just didn’t find the motivation. All I could ever think was I would be better off playing with my little one than sitting in front of the screen. These moments are so, so limited, so precious, so special that I simply don’t want to miss even a single second of her childhood. Time is just flying and I just want to be present for her – all the time, in every way I can. And being offline makes me happy, it keeps me sane.
So excuse me while I try to juggle my life while trying to live it.
Oh, what fun! 🙂
Here are some pictures we clicked yesterday early morning before breakfast and grocery shopping at the local farmers market. This blouse that I picked from the clearance section really fit the backdrop. Can you spot me in those bushes? 😛

Blouse: NY&C | Jeans: 7FAM | Shoes: Liz Claiborne

Zesty

Would you believe me if I say that I still can’t come around the fact that I have a cute little daughter? A daughter who is cute like a button and oh, so adorable. I might sound like a broken record, but that is exactly how I feel. Every night when I put her to sleep in my arms and shower her with a thousand kisses, my eyes tear up. And every night I thank the supreme power for giving me the gift of motherhood. This is the MOST satisfying job in the world. Nothing, absolutely NOTHING else satisfies me more than holding her in my arms. I don’t think this feeling will ever get old. It has been more than 7 months and here I am, still standing in awe and wondering – how on earth my life turned in to this beautiful fairy tale!
In all honesty, every day is not like a fairy tale. Some days are longer (and harder) than others. But such is life – never the same. No two days are same – and that is how it should be.

Dress: Robbie Bee (same) | Sandals: Target (same)

Love Your Body

If there is one thing in particular, that you might not have seen me wearing on the blog (like EVER) – it’s anything off-shoulders. I’ve always had heavy breasts (since my early twenties), which is why I never had the courage of wearing anything off the shoulders. (I also wrote a post on this topic a few years ago). I was afraid that my body won’t do justice to this style, or I would look funny, or what will people think. Guess what? I was wrong. So, so wrong. Look at me now! You might be wondering what changed?
Well, I gave birth. That is what changed. All the insecurities I ever had over my body – all went down the drain – just like that! I do not care anymore what others think of my body or how do my arms or my stomach looks in a particular dress. The only thing matters to me now is that ‘I’ should be satisfied with my clothing, ‘I’ should feel comfortable in it, ‘I’ should like it, ‘I’ should feel fit,. In short, ‘I’ am all that matters.
To think of it, this body created a life, survived a Cesarean section (yes, I had one), went through all the post operation trauma, breastfed and still survived. Isn’t it wonderful? And all I cared before was that my breasts were too curvy, well breaking news!! Now, they sag too. And on the contrary, I am even more grateful to my body – because it’s feeding my baby. And I fully accept the fact that my body has changed FOREVER. This realization is what made me strong. Now if I want to wear an off-shoulder dress or any other damn thing, you bet I’ll wear it!

Cheers..
Ritika

Dress: Target | Panama Hat: Target | Sandals: Aldo