Not sure if it is the season or my general happy mood, but these days (I mean every-single-day) I wake up wanting to dress the biggest flowers and the happiest colors. Blacks and greys don’t excite me anymore. If the print on the fabric isn’t ‘happy’ I don’t want to wear it. Does it happen with you too? Do you also go through phases like these? Black for a few months and then all colors of the rainbow for the next few?
Not sure till when it’s going to last, but I am loving this phase. I mean who doesn’t like to dress in clothes that make them happy, right?
Its the Fair season here in Orlando. Every weekend there is a fair going on. And since February, we’ve been to four Fairs already. Even though our little girl is too young to enjoy the rides, she loves the attention and the crowd. She is very social and very friendly and loves being around people (frankly, we love it)! Which is why we don’t miss a chance to bring her to events like these. Wore this Gap dress to one of the Fairs and had fun all afternoon! Love, love the coral color. I matched it with white gladiator sandals (from Aldo) which are quite old. You can find similar ones HERE.
Big flowers on my green blouse – this is what I wanted to name this post. But after 30 seconds of pondering over, it felt awkward. Moving on..
Today I specially want to connect with my mom-friends. This post is dedicated to all the mothers. We are super-heroes, each one of us. All the hardships that we go through, from the minute we conceive to giving birth and then raising our babies. The struggle, the hardwork never ends. Once a mother, always a mother. We will always worry about our children, no matter how old they get. However sometimes, while mothering we start losing ourselves. Inch by inch, everyday, we keep letting go of our original self until one day when it’s too late.
So today, I would like you to Stop what you are doing and think about it. Are you one of those mothers who has stopped loving herself? Have you stopped cooking for yourself (by which I mean something that YOU like, not what the family wants)? Have you stopped dressing up nice? Have you stopped taking time out for a hobby or any activity that you previously enjoyed? Well, if the answer to any of these questions is a yes, then my friend there is a problem. This is not OK. We must love ourselves first, take care of ourselves first, only then will be able to love our children and live a happy life. ‘Happy’ is the key word here. Are you happy? Like REALLY happy? This happiness should not be because you gave birth. This happiness should be because you love your life, because you have not given up your ‘true self’ to be a mother.
Often I see mothers who are always, like ALWAYS dressed up in sweats or black head-to-toe. And rarely this is because they like black color. Usually it is because black hides their curves and makes them look thin. They think their bodies are not beautiful anymore since giving birth and hence do not deserve pretty clothes.
May I request you to please, please not do that to yourself. If anything, we must love and appreciate our bodies even more now. It goes through so much pain to bring a new life in to this world. Our bodies are so, so strong. And that is why I think all mothers are superheroes.
All of you is beautiful. Even those sagging breasts and the wide waistline – all these tell a beautiful story. The story of bringing a new life to this world. How can that be ugly in any way? Look at yourself from your child’s eyes – For them you are THE MOST BEAUTIFUL being in the entire world. Their eyes light up when you enter the room. Don’t they? Would you like them to grow up seeing you hating or criticizing your body? Instead we want our sons and daughters to be confident and humble in every way possible. If not for yourself, do it for them. Our children are seeing us, observing us, learning from us. They are observing every minute thing we say and do. We can’t let them grow up thinking only skinny is beautiful. We can’t let them think their mother hates her body since giving birth to them!
So let’s just change this. If not today, then when? If not us, then who? Let’s just start from dressing up nice everyday. Embrace your curves. Love your body. Don’t eat junk, workout regularly (remember they are watching us). Say good things about yourself. Think positive. Cook for yourself. Go back to that art class, gardening or reading or whatever you like to do. Take time out for yourself. Go shopping. Meet with your girlfriends. Just do what makes you happy!
In my humble opinion, body confidence is one of the best gifts we can give to our children, but it has to come from within us. And actions speak louder than words.
Dear mother – you are beautiful. Every inch of you. 🙂
Blouse: New York & Company | Jeans: Loft | Bag: Wilsons Leather | Earrings: Target
For the first time ever, I took my little bee to an indoor playground. My God, are they loud or what! Kids screaming everywhere and running from one corner of the room to another like little maniacs. Of course it’s their idea of fun, who are we to judge. My poor little girl who is super friendly was so overwhelmed by all that screaming and running that she kept looking at me with puppy eyes. It was like she was asking ‘what is wrong with these children, mom?’ But at the end of the day, she did enjoy and that is what matters. And by the time we got home, she was dog-tired. Completely washed out! Mission Accomplished.
This is what I wore that afternoon. Sorry folks who are still living in cold. Here in Florida, the sun always shines. 😉
Dress: Old Navy | Shoes: Target | Watch: Michael Kors